Encouragement promotes a strong sense of self because it sends three main messages to your child:
1. You can do it! Youth believe they can do things if parents:
- help them break a problem down into smaller parts
- remind them of their strengths and past successes
- encourage them by sharing how they have dealt with challenges
- ask them to share their opinions and feelings
- listen to what they have to say
- ask them for input concerning family plans and events
- ask them for ideas to solve family problems
- remember what they have told them
- make time for them each day
- attend school functions and extracurricular activities
- let them know that they are thinking about them when they can’t be with them
- display things they have made and recognitions they receive from school or the community
Examples of Encouraging Words
- "I know that wasn’t easy."
- "You did such an awesome job."
- "Keep on trying."
- "You are very good at that."
- "You are learning a lot."
- "I like the way you did that."
- "I can tell you’ve been practicing."
- "It’s great to see you working so hard."
- "I’m so proud of you."
Practices That are Discouraging
- Being sarcastic or negative about a child’s ability to be successful
- Comparing a child to brothers and sisters
- Taking over when a child’s progress is slow
- Reminding a child of past failures
- Source. NIDA.gov